Dolly Cheong & Dr Bernard Cheong
Dr Bernard: My wife, Dolly, and I, are at another peak of life’s many waves. It takes work.
The best way to say sorry – is to stop work and take time off to spend together. It is not as easy as it sounds. I need to know why and exactly what I may have done. But trying to see it from her point of view is a must. Never assume your point of view is correct or faulty, it usually built from of a series of incidents.
Trying to get her to talk about it – never let it become an interrogation. That is why it is better to take time off and do something together – not just a dinner, that’s a “by the way” only. For example, go shopping with a $10,000 budget to blow. (Believe me, even if it is more than a month’s salary, I will do it. She knows what you make.) Spend it all on her, but have fun while doing it. Never argue. Discuss. Watch your tone of voice from the first microsecond. Then, you will eventually learn the truth, which really often frees you and her. And don’t do it again.
It’s not about who’s right or wrong, it is about right and whether it was the good thing to do. Doctor’s advice from me: The right thing is not always the good thing. And that’s why you have lawyers.
What about himself? If you are a woman, it is simpler… With testosterone-driven guys like me, a watch or car or camera will solve all!